Sexism in the building trades

Since buying our house in 2004, I’ve interviewed dozens of contractors for many of the numerous projects our poorly neglected 1865 house needs. I’m continually disappointed with those few (thankfully, few!) contractors who insist on meeting with both me and my husband. I tell them that I’m the one gathering information and ultimately responsible for choosing contractors, but some are not convinced. Today I had a contractor say that “we need to consider our economic position, you understand? If we come out for a free estimate, we want to make sure we answer all of your questions.” When I assured him that I would be the only one who he need to talk to, he said he was “sorry that you have to miss out on such a good opportunity!”  I wonder if such a contractor would insist on meeting with both my husband and I if it was my husband who had made the call. I think not.

On a side note, I think the entire construction industry is one major racket. It’s almost impossible to get any prices for doors, windows, siding or any other component of construction without going through the time consuming “Free Estimate,” which is really just a way for contractors to “get in the door.” You really need a thick skin to deal with these folks.

I’ve been told the cost of construction in the Boston area is approximately $175 a square foot. For that much money, they should be able to write off a few unsucessful “free estimates.” I’ll continue to work only with those contractors who don’t think I’m wasting their time.


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3 responses to “Sexism in the building trades”

  1. Wow, Rachele–that’s mighty whacked. Considered publicizing the name of the contractor?

    (And by the way, hi! I found this through Universal Hub, but I hope you and A and E are well!)

  2. That is definitely weird. One of my friends told me that her insurance agent was confused by her handling the money and insurance. She gave him one explanation. When he still didn’t get it, she told him where to stick it. Turned out he was also offering her bad rates.

    On the other hand, I have seen signs in hardware stores saying “Married men may not buy custom paint colors without a note from their wives.” So– I imagine there are at least a few cases where spouses have vetoed late in the game, and merchants have been burned by not getting buy-in from all adults in the household.

    The simpler explanation is that they are jerks though. Grrrr.

  3. Our *female* real estate agent seems to prefer dealing with my husband. Sigh.

    The contractor remodeling our new house is obviously more comfortable dealing with my husband, but he has a healthy respect for wives, as his wife definitely runs the show at home! 🙂 The contractor did want both of us present as we finalized floor plans.

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